Bending over backwards
So, between the dates, concerts, and brunch’s this weekend I spent a large amount of time talking to women who have spent a ridiculous amount of time bending over backwards trying to salvage a “healthy” and supposedly “happy” relationship.
And I’m just wondering why?
Well not really why.
I think that women are more inherently able to swallow their prides, compromise and work with the men they are with in the hopes of maintaining a harmonious relationship.
But, why the hell does our shoulders have to be touching the ground before we realize the unequal distribution of love and affection, understanding and appreciation, compromise and selflessness.
I’m not saying that men (some man some where) aren’t being mentally, emotionally, physically mistreated and taking for granted by their significant others…well I am actually saying that! Men, rarely are mentally mistreated and neglected in the same way!
Do I sound bitter yall? I’m not though!
I just want women, myself included to understand as this dude told me once, that WE are the prize. And WE have to maintain some balance; balance our natural inclination to compromise with our seemingly unnatural inclination to take care of ourselves FIRST!
Ok, ok, ok, I’m getting off my high horse now. But, let’s just say that this weekend I actually felt guilty for doing what was in my best interest and was so close to relenting and doing what this man wanted me to do!
Like, I really thought for a minute I better do so and so because if I don’t he’ll be mad and disappointed in me and that will be bad. But, after a took a few minutes to regain my composure I asked myself; “Self, why would I put the wants and needs of this man over my own wants and needs?”
And I found myself asking at least two girlfriends…well one girlfriend and one daughter the same question.
Why is what he wants, needs, demands, expects….more important than what you want, need, demand and expect?
Ladies, we are in trouble?
And no I am not on some man hating stuff. What I am on, is some woman loving stuff!
Live life yall,
KB
